You DO matter!
“What I don’t like and what I want”: You do matter. If you find that you are often treated as if you don’t matter, meaning, people feel they are “allowed” to upset you, they feel they are “allowed” to ignore you, they feel they are “allowed” to be nasty towards you, they feel they are “allowed” to say what they like to you, without holding back, there’s a strange reason they do this to you. For example, if, while you were growing up, your views and interests were ignored, if you were bullied or a sibling regularly attacked you and no adult stopped this – no matter how these actions hurt or angered you – you could eventually come to believe that you don’t matter. Now, as an adult, when you interact with others, you will act such that the way you feel, the way you think, the way you speak and your overall posture will give others the message that “I don’t matter” and they will then treat you as someone who doesn’t matter! Have you had enough of this? What you DO know is, “I don’t like this!” Wanting others to treat you differently will not work on it’s own. So how do you change this? You change it by turning towards yourself and then you start TREATING YOURSELF as a person who does matter! For example, If you are suffering and in a negative state, you matter sufficiently to think kindly about yourself and to settle your body-in-distress – perhaps by breathing deeply. If someone is defining you negatively with words or, with behavior, you matter sufficiently to let them know how you see things, or how you feel, instead of silently carrying and maintaining their incorrect view. Doing this will change how you feel, how you think, how you speak, how you behave and will be seen in your facial expression and posture, all of these acting in concert to reflect to the world that “I matter.” This is “what you want” and this is what you will then start receiving from others.
Leslie Zimmermann is a Jungian Analyst trained in the philosophy and psychology of C.G. Jung in Zürich and is based in Johannesburg. She offers a range of services, which she integrates, to meet the needs and aspirations of people. In a word, her work is in the service of wholeness. Wholeness includes both our vulnerabilities and our strengths, becoming conscious of our own unique mix of these, honoring our own unique way of functioning and with this knowledge and confidence, contributing as only we each can in our own way, to this evolving world we find ourselves to be a part of.
Besides having a Diplomate qualification in Analytical psychology, which qualifies me to write about the theory and practice of dream interpretation, I also have an Honours degree in Applied Psychology and a Masters degree in Research psychology, which qualify me to write about theories of human development, personality, abnormal psychology, social psychology, sociology and ethics. Also, theories and knowledge pertaining to sleep and dreams from a perspective of neuropsychological and biological systems.
Leslie specializes in Analytical Psychology, Voice Dialogue, Life Coaching solutions for business executives. Consulting and coaching for family owned and home-based business
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Member: SAPC (South African Psychoanalytic Confederation); SAAJA (Southern African Association of Jungian Analysts); IAAP (International Association for Analytical Psychology); International Association for the Study of Dreams